Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Saturday, October 15, 2011
Monday, October 10, 2011
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
What happens is, when all of the guests leave to get ready for your grand exit (or when they all leave if you are not doing one), you and your new husband dance together alone. Its just the two of you, the DJ and the photorapher. Or you could even have the DJ start the song and then step out. So not only do you get another intimate moment with your new husband, but you can also get some great photos!
This seems like a great solution to our first dance song problem since we can pick two songs to dance to. Plus we dont have to eliminate any songs that are difficult to dance to since for the private last dance we can just sway if we want. We plan on limiting it to about 3 minutes, which will give the guests enough time to prepare for our grand exit. Plus I love the idea of having a few moments to basks in the last few minutes of our wedding together.
Did you do this at you wedding or have you ever heard of it?
Sunday, September 4, 2011
- Fake flower petals look fake. We originally planned on using silk petals for the aisle and for the petal toss. They are inexpensive, we can get the exact color we want, and nobody will notice the ones on the aisle are fake.....wrong. We noticed and it really detracted from the decor. So we decided real was the way to go for us, even though its going cost a lot more.
- Really long weddings suck. We all like solos and reading, but they get repetitive after a while. And 2 or more hours is way too long to hold peoples attention. At the last wedding several people made us promise our ceremony would not be so long. An hour, tops, is reasonable.
- Dont start late. Again, both these weddings started at least an hour late. That is super annoying to someone like me who likes to show up early to events. We are starting on time even if all the guests are not there.
- You can have great decor on a budget. I really liked the reception decor at both weddings even though i knew both couples had modest budget. They both had rather large ccenterpieces that really added to the space.
- Bands can be awesome. Both weddings had a live band (the same band) and it really created a nice ambieance. I would not do one for the entire night, but they are great for dinner and cocktail hour.
- Have someone with a list of tables. At the last one we could not find our escort card. Luckily the coordinator was walking around with a list so she could tell us where to sit. My FSIL grabbed our card for us, but we could not find her at the time. This lead to out decision to do a chart instead of cards.
- If people eat too much at the cocktail hour they wont eat a lot at dinner. This has been true at almost all of the NY weddings I have been too. At the last wedding the dinner was pretty good but i could not finish since i was still full from cocktail hour. And they had fruit and salad served before the entree and only a few people actually touched it. What a waste. My fiance refuses to serve a lot a food at our cocktail hour for this very reason. So far we are thinking of only offering fruit and veggies since there will be dinner and a late night buffet.
- Serve dinner while the speeches are being given. At the last wedding, I was not really hungry for dinner, but some people at my table were. And it felt like we had to wait forever for the speeches to end to be served.
- And lastly, make sure your venue is committed to service. The last wedding reception was at a very pretty venue but the service was terrible. In their defense the reception started over an hour late and there was another event right after, but the staff still should have been professional. As soon as my fiance and i arrived we heard a few complaining about the late start and how they had to hurry for the next event. During the cocktail hour if we sat our plate or drink down on the table for a second, someone was comming to take it away. At dinner my FSIL bent down to fix her shoe and when she looked up her plate was gone! I understand the need to move things along but at least ask if the person is done. They all seemed very unhappy to be there and it really brought down the experience for us.
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Thursday, August 18, 2011
|Image from We TV's Bridezillas via this|
Saturday, August 6, 2011
FI wants to send the save the dates as early as possible but I think we should at least wait until November, one year from the wedding. Is that too early?
Thursday, July 28, 2011
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
This time was a little different than the first time i was there. For one, the consultant i had this time was not really helpful. The first time the consultant really got a feel for what i was looking for, but this lady just helped me in and out of the dresses with no other assistance at all. They have so many dresses and we were rushed into picking the ones to try on so i feel like i need to go back to try one more. I also felt a lot of pressure having my mom and FI there. They are two very important people in my life so i want them to like the dress i choose, but i also didnt want to choose a dress that i didnt love just because the two of them loved it. This is going to be harder than i thought!
So here are the highlights if the trip:
This dress by Jasmine was my moms pick. At first glance I did not think it was going to work since it has a fan on the bust that I figured would not be flattering on my large chest. But once I put it on, the fan actually looked ok. And i love the trumpet shape of the gown and how it pulls in my waist. The price was pretty good too, i think it was $750. Im not too sure how i feel about the taffeta though since most of the gowns I've been drawn to are satin or organza. Its not bad, just different. And the dress feels a little too romantic for me. I want something a little more edgy and modern. And the biggest issue is FI does not like it.
|Sottero and Midgley Adorae|
Me in the Dress
Monday, July 11, 2011
Sunday, June 26, 2011
Wednesday, June 22, 2011
So, what would you have a teenage flower girl carry?
Wednesday, June 8, 2011
Lately , I have encountered (in real life and online) several engaged women who hesitate taking their future husbands last name. The reasons vary from their professional reputation to family pride and wanting their family name to go on and even simply not liking their future husbands last name. I was kind of surprised by this since even as a very independent and progressive woman, it never occurred to me that I even had an option of not taking my husbands name.
A name is very important. Its part of who you are and who others perceive you to be. Your name makes you part of a family and no matter how large or small it is, everyone knows you belong because you share that name. Its understandable since you had it since birth, of course it will be difficult to give it up; its part of you identity. Its especially hard for a woman whose family name will die when she is married. There becomes the extra burden of loyalty to that name and wanting it to continue.
I also see the issue from a feminist standpoint. Why does the female have to take the males name? It does seem like a nod to the notion of women as property. And what about same sex unions? Whose name should they take then?
And how will not taking your husbands last name effect your marriage? Will the husband believe you are fully committed to the relationship if you chose not to take his name? And what about the kids, whose name will they get and will the family really be unified under different last names?
While I don’t judge anyone's decision either way, I have to say that I look forward to taking my future husbands last name. I don’t feel like I will be losing my identity, but instead adding to it as my new role as a wife. As long as the couple agrees, they can do whatever they want.
So what do you think? Does having a different last name than your husband take away from a marriage? Or is it an outdated notion that should be done away with?
Friday, June 3, 2011
- Is wedding planning their primary job?
- How many weddings do they do per weekend?
- Do they have references?
- Do they have photos of events they decorated? (If you are looking for someone who does decorating too)
- How often can you call/email? Will you be charged?
- What is the deposit? When is the final payment due?
- When will they take over my wedding? How long will they stay?
- Have they worked at my venue? Can they recommend vendors?
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
|Destiny by Maggie Sottero|
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Tuesday, May 17, 2011
|Sottero & Midgley Adorae|
|Maggi Sottero Miri|
|Sottero & Midgley Fantasia|
Thursday, May 12, 2011
Monday, May 9, 2011
Sunday, May 1, 2011
- Monogram- we have already started this and have it narrowed down to a few favorites. Well Mr. Modern knows which one he wants but im still working on it. I'll be sure to do a post on that soon.
- Ring Bearer Pillow
- OOTG bags - We are still not 100% sure we are going to do these. But if we do, im going to make them (with the help of family anf friends!)
- Bling shoes- Whenever i find my perfect purple shoe, i plan to add a little bling to the heels.
- Monogram cake topper - that is, if we have a cake topper since Mr. Modern does not like them.
- Menu/place cards - two birds with one stone!
- Guestbook- We have two ideas for this. One is a photo book with photos of us throughout our relationship. The other is something that my dad is making for us, that can double as a guestbook, but i am forbidden to share this until after the wedding because we want it to be a surprise for our guests (some of whom read this blog).
- Toss bouquet
- Broom- I am super excited about us jumping the broom. Its going to be sooo cool. I will post more on that later.
- Mr & Mrs signs
- Escort card chart/ or escort cards- havent decided which ones we are going to do
- Table names
- Garter- This will be a tough one, but it can be done. There are some great ones on Etsy, but I dont want to spend $75 on something i plan to toss. But I also think i want something more than just a plain one. There are several tutorials online, but i may use my resources and ask my awesome fashion designer FSIL to help me out on this one.
- Aisle Runner- I really really really want a monoramed aisle runner. We plan on using our monogram throughout the wedding so this really makes sense. However, I have to be difficult and insist on a real fabric aisle runner, not one of those paper thin "fabric" runners. Plus i want at least a 45 in wide runner since both of my parents will be walking me down the aisle. So this makes it hard to just buy one since i dont want to spent $150 on it. So Im buying a bolt of fabric and painting it myself. We will see how it turns out :/
Friday, April 29, 2011
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
I have been researching wedding photographers and many of them offer boudoir photography. Though this type of photography is not exclusive to brides, many brides have found this to be the perfect gift for their husbands to be. The style can range anywhere from vintage pin up, like the spreads in Maxim, or even involve nudity or implied nudes. And lets be honest, wont your man love this way more than cufflinks?
Most of the examples I have seen have been very classy, but I guess you could go as far as you and the photographer are comfortable with. I don’t think I would do nudes, but maybe a Maxim-esque type of shoot. I kind of think it is empowering . And to me it would be worth the splurge to have this tangible proof of my hotness to look at when I'm too old to remember.
Have you done a boudoir shoot or would you consider doing one?
Tuesday, April 19, 2011
From the start I should have looked online at budgets and I would have had a clearer picture of what to include. Once I did that I was on the right track. The Knot has a pretty good budget template but I really like the one on Google Docs (the style me pretty wedding planning template). I also got a ton of great advice things brides forgot to add to their budget from the ladies at Weddingbee on this post.
So here are a few of the more common things that brides tend to forget:
Service fee- Most of the venues we looked required this service fee which was 18-20% of the total catering cost. That’s a huge fee! I understand that the service staff works hard and should receive a gratuity but I'm not a fan of a mandatory fee, I think gratuity should be paid based on service I receive. Lucky for us, this fee is included in our per person cost, so I did not need to add it to our budget.
Tax- I did forget to add tax. When purchasing anything else, tax is pretty negligible to me, but when you are spending thousands on catering, the tax can add up and you have to take that into consideration.
Vendor Meals- Many vendor contracts require that you provide them with a meal. This is reasonable since they could be working for 6 or more hours and should be fed. It should not be a huge deal if you are having a buffet, but with a sit down dinner, you may have to pay your caterer for their plate. I've heard that most venues will give vendors a simple meal a greater discount than the guests meals, but my venue charges the same rate as the guest meal minus bar. So we had to add this to our budget.
Postage- Another one I heard over and over was postage. Postage for invites, return envelopes for RSVP's (if you are doing them), save the dates, and thank you cards. It really adds up.
There were also a lot of other things like out of town guests bags, gift wrap for bridal party gifts, rehearsal dinner, wedding night accommodations, undergarments, and the costs to fly to the Midwest from NYC for the wedding.
After all of this I think we finally have a comprehensive wedding budget. This is really important to us because we really don’t want to spend a penny more than we have to, and the best way to stick to a budget is to know exactly how much you can spend.
What were the little things you forgot to add to your budget?
Saturday, April 16, 2011
I've heard great things about Google docs and I finally jumped on the bandwagon a couple weeks ago. And I am in love. They have a wedding planning template that has my guest list, budget, playlist and list of vendors I'm researching all in one place and I can access it on any computer and share it with VIP's. I still print it out and have hard copies in my trusty binder. There are still a few things I'm going to add down the line, but its still the most comprehensive template I've found thus far.